The other night the girls and I watched the Disney movie Inside Out. We had seen it in the movies and enjoyed it, and we enjoyed it just as much the second time. If you have not seen it the premise is a young girl forced to move due to her fathers new job and the five emotions that lead her, joy, sadness, disgust, anger, and fear.
Multiple times throughout the movie I told my oldest daughter that the “sadness” character was my favorite. When asked why (other than how cute the character is,) I explained that throughout life you can only enjoy true joy because of real sadness. Life is full of highs and lows, many stormy moments that in my mind are all there to remind you that when you have the happy moments, true joy, you should wrap your arms around it and cherish the moments. How much of our lives are just a bunch of mixed moments, sadness, anger and fear leading to moments of great joy.The moment I was rushed down the hallway of a hospital for and emergency C-section because Madison’s heart rate had dropped. So scared, tears streaming down my face. Hours later the wonderful joy of holding my beautiful, healthy baby. So many moments before my BPM surgery and during the healing process all leading to a sense of peace and health allowing me to focus on what is important in life.
Sadness, an emotion that surrounded so much of my life growing up has once again been able to creep into my life. It started as a sadness of the loss of a few once important relationships. This sadness has now turned more to one of lamenting that you can not control others actions no matter how much you bend. Some are not happy unless they make everyone miserable around them. Joy for some is seeing sadness in others.
Clearly you should not surround yourself with people who make you feel bad. Of course, life is never that easy. A decision that seems so clear and easy has ripple effects often creating a whirlwind of confusion, hurt feelings and the ever so popular, politically correct, “I don’t want to get involved.” Sometimes you have to bite your lip and sometimes, well you just have to cut ties and move on. I guess the most important thing is knowing which is which.