As a pre teen many young girls with visions of the perfect cleavage will take matters into their own hands and add to the bounty that nature provides or in some cases fails to provide. My own young girls talk often of the day they will have boobs. Let’s be honest, in the view of society, they are the “visual” things that makes a woman. MIllions spent each year on the perfect bra, marketing telling every woman that is what makes you “sexy”.
For well over a year after the mastectomy and DIEP surgery, once I could finally wear a bra, I was limited to one that was padded. Even after a year of healing, scars can still cause a good amount of discomfort. As I would look in the mirror I felt like some teenager who was trying to increase what nature had provided. The difference here as we all know is that what nature provided to me had plans to attack. What I have instead is created by amazing plastic surgeons.
A few weeks ago I decided it was time. The perfect bra, no lining, no padding. For the first time in almost a year and a half I can look in the mirror and see only me. I am comfortable in my own skin. I am happy with the reflection in the mirror, other than the few pounds I could stand to lose 🙂 but hey who doesn’t right?
Everyday since July 2, 2012 there has been a “new” something. Since that date I have achieved many milestones. I remember first being able to finally sit up without assistance, and the first time walking around the block with the girls. There was lots of pain, many tears and worlds of relief knowing I made the right decision. This milestone may not seem like much to many but to me, it is about comfort and confidence and therefore huge. And shopping in VIctoria’s Secret again in pretty cool also 🙂
Decisions for my Family 
You are an amazing woman
I desperately need to talk with you….I have had a double mastectomy because of invasive breast cancer. Had a diep flap in October 2013. Had many complications including an abscess in my abdomen three weeks after the initial surgery. It caused such a weakend abdomen that I had a second 7 hour procedure to repair the abdomen. I’m 8 weeks post op the second surgery and i feel like there are knives in my stomach. Doctor keeps telling me it could take up to a year. I’m so miserable I don’t know what to do.
I am so sorry to hear about your experience. Have you received an opinion from a different surgeon? I did not have any complications from the surgery but it was a long process. I had a lump of scar tissue along the incision that caused me great discomfort that had to be removed. To this day I can not say that my abdomen feels “normal” but I do not have any experience with the complications that you are dealing with. To me it sounds as if something is wrong to be experiencing the type of pain you are. Is there anyone that you could seek a send opinion from?